Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Real = Sexy

I have loved writing this blog, despite the moments I feel like I'm talking to a crowd of people in my underwear. (In fact, I think it is a rather small group of readers.) But when someone I have just met says "I'm checking out your blog," I am initially flattered and then feel a wave of panic.  Yikes! That is a lot of information about my deepest fears and insecurities and maybe it's too soon to let someone see into my brave but delicate heart.


Then I remember that this is what I want.  To be real.  So of course I lean in and say, "Well, you wanted real."  The response...

Real=sexy.

So perfectly said.  But so hard to remember.  I think we all walk around with an idea of what we should show to the world, consciously or not.  What is acceptable, cute, attractive, safe.  But does it allow us to make real connections?

In my book (book of life, that is...I am not writing a book), real is to be authentic, which means being vulnerable (as she takes a deep breath because being vulnerable is not easy).  It means showing not only the parts of me I feel comfortable with and confident about, but the doubts and the fears as well.  So at times I am a jokester and a flirt...someone who can be super sarcastic and mischievous.  But it is good for me to remember to show all the facets of myself.  Especially to those in my life I care most about and those I want to know better.  And in the moments I remember this, I realize that the response isn't even important.  Because I have offered up the real me and that feels really good.  Take a deep breath and give it a try...

5 comments:

John Montalto said...

Great advice, Maria! How wonderful it is to let go of the conditioned self, it's attitudes, restrictions and belief systems that often keep us from experiencing the freedom to be authentic. Another great read, thank you!

Maria Amendolia said...

Thanks, John. I am really glad you are reading and enjoying!

Lauren said...

So true! And why not write a book?!

Andrea Caldwell said...

I have to admit, I had a little pang of excitement when I read the three words:
"In my book".....

Marda said...

such sage advice... the beauty of a soul exposed. love you girly.